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Analyzing the Playoffs

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With this season, like any, when we get down to the final 4 teams going into the World Series, we hear every analyzes of the teams. From what the cost of gas was when they last played the series to how possible it is for the underdog to come back and win 4 in a row.

Regardless of whether the ’sports guys’ get it right or not, a team, like your marriage, could be picked apart based on it’s history. We’re even guilty of it subconsciously. We look at our relationship up to this point and try to predict what will/may happen to us in the future if we stay together. When things get rough, if the natural progression is to see it spiral further into an abyss, we feel it will always be that way.

The world looks at the stats on marriage and thinks there’s NO way a couple can survive an affair, stress of a special needs child or drug/porn addition. The fact of the matter is that it does happen but it takes us seeing our marriage for what they could be, not what it’s been.

Last season, we saw the Boston Red Sox come from behind in the playoffs to beat Cleveland to go on to win a Championship. Their history showed it to be unlikely but THEY DID IT!

This is your chance to prove the critics wrong. Heck, prove yourself wrong. All it takes is setting your mind and prayers on changing you for the good of your marriage. Whatever it takes to make your team shine. That could be cutting out extracurricular events so you are home more, embracing your spouse when he/she comes home from work or getting a sitter for a weekly date night. These are simply things but good habits have to birthed and repeated often before it becomes a habit. It’s like working out. The first few times it’s hard. You don’t want to be there and it may hurt the first few times, but after you go and the results you start to see make you glad you did it.

Now, some of the things you do may be harder, like cutting out internet use, due to porn additions or needing to seek help for other additions. However, you have to come clean with yourself and then your spouse so you can be on the road to recovery in your life and in your marriage. I’ve always heard that the best things are worth fighting for. It’s just are you willing to love like no other so you can love like no other.

The Marriage Playbook™
~wheremarriage is going~

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Da wing…Do you have Da Wing?

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Da wing…Do you have Da Wing?
~The Princess Bride

This line got me to thinking about the rings a husband and wife wear starting on their wedding day. We buy them at a time when we have very little money and they are so small.

Why can’t they be like a championship ring?

When an athlete wins a national championship, each player gets a nice big ring to show for their discipline and sacrifice to get them to that point in their career. We should have a wedding ring that’s the same It’s not to show for what we have done but for what we are going to do. A championship is made up of team elements working together to be great and to win. In your marriage, those are the same elements it takes to have unconditional love and to live our lives together.

I know those kinda rings are expensive, but just the idea that by saying ‘I do’ we are committed to playing like a champion, should be the mindset of our marriage.

It’s not a band of bondage. It’s an unbreakable circle that rallies together in tough times and in victories.

The Marriage Playbook
~where marriage is going~

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Winning is in the Little Things

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Recently, I was watching a halftime interview with a coach about how poorly his team had been performing this season. He talked about how the mistakes they were making are just little, fixable things! All it takes are too many little things, like penalties, fumbles or lack of protection on the quarterback, in game to throw a team off course. You can have a plan, but if one area is lacking, you won’t score and can form bad habits until a coach identifies and fixes them. Even the best teams make mistakes. You have to play the whole game though. You can’t get comfortable in your lead. You may have to take some extreme chances to make up for bad choices from earlier in the game, but what team wouldn’t do whatever it takes to win.

The same can be said for your marriage. If we focus on the little things as we go through the game AKA our marriage, then we will find ourselves scoring more points then we ever thought possible. If a quarterback throws an interception or a lineman misses a tackle, he can get down on himself, but if it affects him the rest of the game, he is less likely to improve. His team rallies around him and builds him up. That kinda team support and focus can help any team comeback and pull out a victory. Your marriage may be in need of comeback. Rallying other players to believe that it’s winnable is the first step.

Winning is in the little things. It’s the little things that we do when we date or are engaged that makes us fall in love with our spouse. It’s the little things during the marriage that make us grow in love together. We see chemistry during any sport between two players; that chemistry is there because they have spent time together. They have practiced the plays from their playbook for the good of the team. They want to win and believe they can win every game. Paying attention to the details, the little things, gives them that confidence. That translates into sending loving text message, doing the dishes after dinner and paying attention to the needs of your spouse. Letting your teammate know you are there for them and have their back can be as powerful as winning.

If you want your marriage to improve, you have to look at the little things you can do to improve your game. Hit the mark when your spouse throws you the ball. Open the hole in the defense so they can run up the middle. Its time we get back to the basics in our marriage. The games not over, we are playing the full 4 quarters, 3-periods, 9 innings, 18-holes, and we can win this thing. It starts with one little thing, one day at a time. Before you know it, you are in a habit of doing the little things in a way that’s as natural as breathing.

What are you willing to do to win?

The Marriage Playbook™

~where marriage is going~

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